I find the “in between” stage of anything to be excruciating. Waiting for something can be a difficult task. Waiting for a score report on a big test, waiting for your baby to arrive when you are pregnant, waiting for your toddler to “get” the idea of no, stop, the idea of bedtime, that throwing food, hitting your sibling, screeching in Starbucks are all rude.
I’m having a difficult time waiting for my 22 month old toddler twins to become good citizens in their toddler world. I find myself using my angry voice, and threatening loss of activities. As if a 1 1/2 year old child even gets what I’m talking about, or why I am upset. Part of my dramatic reactions to their negative behavior is that I’m with them 24/7 as caregiver right now. I’m a teacher, and I figured why put them in daycare when I can care for them myself. I wanted to enjoy being mommy daycare, but I’m finding it more challenging than when I had four preps while finishing my masters degree. Eek!
I get stuck on the twin thing–“Poor me, no one understands what I go through with twins”. I can’t help it. Two the same age are sometimes nearly impossible. Maybe I just have poor time management and organization skills. Here’s a look into my day (using today as the example):
6:30 wake up
A is already awake and T has changed and fed her. I change into my workout gear and get my supplies ready.
7:00 L is awake, get him set up for breakfast, start workout
7:30 workout complete…dishes, breakfast clean up, drink some water, kids play somewhat nicely (I go in to say good job playing nice a few times, but more so to stop hitting, or stealing toys from each other). Prep snack for A&L so I can try to shower.
8:40 attempt shower/change/hair/etc while they eat snack and watch Elmo
9:03 I realize I still haven’t eaten anything. They are done with snack and TV. They demand to get out of chairs. I try to put them in play room again so I can eat. They aren’t satisfied with this. They run around and I try to make myself an egg with spinach since I’m on a fix right now (#21dayfix). Another post to come soon about my fitness routine. It’s been amazing!
9:20 Is the bag packed? Check the bag for diapers, lunch items in case we are not back in time, snacks, waters, wallet, phone. Check.
9:30 Where are your shoes??!! Try to find shoes for A&L. Oops, better check diapers one more time. One. Two. Diapers done. Now the fun of getting two toddlers into their car seats.
9:40 Finally everyone is in the car ready to go.
9:55 Starbucks drivethru-YEAY!
10:10 Arrive at Baby/Natural Mama store. Get ADD necklace. Yes, for myself. I need better focus. My mind wanders and I find it hard to concentrate.
10:20 On the road again, heading to the indoor playspace-30 min drive
10:55 Finally arrive at playspace. Play for awhile and enjoy our time. Another kid knocks over A when I’m not looking and tells his mom they collided. Yeah, right kid. Not cool. L has a few tantrums when his sister even comes near what he is playing with. I have to talk him down from getting mad at a baby about taking a spoon he wasn’t even playing with at the moment. Thankfully, they are really good when it comes to listening when it is time to leave the playspace.
12:35ish Everyone is back in the car and ready to head home for lunch. It’s later than I’d like to have lunch, but we got to the playspace so late, and it’s so far, I wanted them to have time to get out a lot of energy.
1:20 Finally home-lunch hour traffic. Lunch. Maybe they’ll nap? As if. HA. T converts L’s bed to toddler style bed since he’s now climbed out of the bed twice the day before.
No one naps. They play, somewhat nice, minimal intervention by me. When they start getting antsy I get us in the car and head out to search for a bed rail for L’s new setup.
3:40 Head out to Target
4:00 Target here we are. A nasty storm is rolling in so I take the stroller in (since they are now about to pass out from not napping anyway). The storm comes faster than I thought, or I spend too much time shopping, haha.
5:00 Head back home. Dinner time. Dinner. Playtime. Tubs. Story time. L won’t sleep in new setup. Up/down/up/down. Oh, and Target didn’t have a rail small enough for a crib toddler bed. I close him in the room to see what he does. He’s crying. I wait it out a little. He’s still in the Pack N Play. It’s 9:19. I’m tired. I’m ignoring TV time with T to write this, oh wait…
9:28 now. L had his diaper off-that’s always a blast. HA. Tried his bed again. No luck. Now he’s in the Baby Einstein chair. Hoping he falls asleep and I can transfer him to his bed.
Before this stage, they could be more easily persuaded to listen, to follow instructions, to just lay in bed because it was bed time. I imagine the next stage will be them understanding our requests. Not necessarily that they will follow them, but they’ll know what we want, what to expect, how the routine goes. Right now though? We are in between then and one day. How do you handle this stage? How do you handle this stage with twins? How can I find balance and not get so worked up about their failure to comply? How do I transition L easier from crib to toddler bed?